He's Just Not That Into You

He's Just Not That Into You
© copyright 2004 Greg Beherendt and Liz Tuccillo



A note from our Founder:

This is the first time we have ever raved about a book on this site. But, it made a huge impact on my life and I wanted give props to the authors: Greg Behrendt and Liz Tuccillo.

As you all know, hundreds if not thousands of books been written on male/female relationships. This is the first one I've ever read that gives women the honest 411 on men... minus BS (rolling my eyes as I reflect on how many times I excused jacked up behavior as his "going into his cave.")

Now if you are married, I don't know if this book will shed any insight into your relationship. But if you are still dating, in a new relationship and/or find yourself --once again -- speed dialing your gf's as you all try to figure out. . . why. . . gf, this book is for you.

I wish this book had been written years ago, it would have spared me and the gurrrls endless hours of speculation in person or on the phone. Then again, I have some fabulous memories of evenings spend over pitchers of margaritas, coffee or tea as we collectively hashed out what some male's cryptic behavior really meant.

Now I know what it means. . . in the dating game, it seems everybody sooner or later hits bottom... mine was during early 2004... the TKO year. In May I decided I had had enough and it was time to clean house -- my house -- but wasn't sure how to. . . until I read this book. These days I don't play the blame game, nor do I waste my pretty. And rather than spending hours, days and weeks agonizing over something a man has done, I simply say these six liberating words, "He's just not that into you..." and I no longer waste time with or on him. More importantly, I keep steppin' barely missing a beat. . . minus getting my feelings hurt.

Who would have thought six words could change my life so significantly!

And I know what I'm going to get my gurrrls as a stocking stuffer. ;)

 Book Description:

For ages women have come together over coffee, cocktails, or late night phone chats to analyze the puzzling behavior of men:

* He's afraid to get hurt again.

* Maybe he doesn't want to ruin the friendship.

* Maybe he's intimidated by me.

* He just got out of a relationship.

Greg Behrendt and Liz Tuccillo are here to say that - despite good intentions - you're wasting your time. Men are not complicated, although they'd like you to think they are. And there are no mixed messages.

The truth may be "He's just not that into you."

Unfortunately guys are too terrified to ever directly tell a woman, "You're not the one." But their actions absolutely show how they feel.

HE SAYS: Oh sure, they say they're busy. They say that they didn't have even a moment in their insanely busy day to pick up the phone. It was just that crazy. All lies. With the advent of cell phones and speed dialing, it is almost impossible to not call you. Sometimes I call people from my pants pocket when I don't even mean to. If I were into you, you would be the bright spot in my horribly busy day. Which would be a day that I would never be too busy to call you.

SHE SAYS: There I something great about knowing that my only job is to be happy as I can be about my life, and feel as good as I can about myself, and to lead as full and eventful a life as I can, so that it doesn't ever feel like I'm just waiting around for some guy to ask me out. And most importantly, it's good for us all to remember that we don't need to scheme and plot, or beg anyone to ask us out. We're fantastic.

He's Just Not That Into You -- based on a popular episode of Sex and the City -- educates otherwise smart women on how to tell when a guy just doesn't like them enough, so they can stop wasting time making excuses for a dead-end relationship.

Reexamining familiar scenarios and classic mindsets that keep us in unsatisfying relationships, Behrendt and Tuccillo's wise and wry understanding of the sexes spares women hours of waiting by the phone, obsessing over the details with sympathetic girlfriends, and hoping his mixed messages really mean "I'm in love with you and want to be with you."

He's Just Not That Into You is provocative, hilarious, and, above all, intoxicatingly liberating. It deserves a place on every woman's night table. It knows you're a beautiful, smart, funny woman who deserves better. The next time you feel the need to start "figuring him out," consider the glorious thought that maybe He's just not that into you. And then set yourself loose to go find the one who is.


You can purchase "He's Just Not That Into You" at amazon.com.



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