ROMANCE TIPS FOR SINGLE MEN Romantic Tips for Men

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Dating Tips for Single Men

DATING TIPS FOR MEN

THE BASICS:

Many men have asked me, "What do women look for in a man?" There are many things that women want in a man. Below are a few suggestions.

a man that will talk with them

a man who respects their opinions

someone who will treat them kindly

someone who works to please her

someone who is gentle

someone who is confident but not overbearing

a man who is not critical

a man who shows love

a good listener

If you can do the above many women would love to be your girlfriend or wife. Unfortunately, many men do not treat women with this kind of love and respect.
From: http://www.date.lifetips.com

Bathe
The worst thing you could do when going out on a date (especially if it is your first date with her) is to turn up unshaven and looking untidy. Women are generally the cleaner of the species and will judge you on how hygenic you are, after all you would be appalled if she turned up for the date looking scruffy and hadn't bathed for a while (no offence). It doesn't cost anything to take a bath and make an effort. Also remember that bad breath and body odour are also an instant turn off and she will assume that this is how you are all the time, even if you are just having a bad day (hey girls have bad hair days all the time!) she won't see beyond your appearance.

Arrive on time
The worst thing you can do is turn up late. Turning up late will send out all the wrong impressions. Women always assume the worst and one of the worst is turning up late, not only will she think that she has been stood up, but will also think that you are unreliable. If you are picking her up from her home then it is advisable to turn up 5 minutes before you are due, any earlier she will be adjusting her make up or still getting ready and won't want you to see her half finished.

Be a Gentleman
Hold the door open for her, let her walk through the doors first, pull out her chair, be polite to her and people around you. Women like to feel special and by treating her like a lady she will think you are fantastic.

Compliment Her
The first thing to say to her is "You look beautiful" before you even ask how she is. Keep up the compliments throughout your date, but don't go overboard. A woman loves to be complimented, feel sexy, gorgeous/beautiful and know that you are attracted to her.

Listen to her and ask questions
Nobody wants to spend the whole night listening to someone talk about themselves, or not listening to what the other person is saying. But you do have to get to know each other. Ask her questions, but more importantly listen to what she has to say.

I remember once, while I was sitting in a resturant waiting for some friends, there was a man and women sitting at the table next to mine and I couldn't help overhearing their conversation (him talking of himself). I could tell it was their first date from what he was telling her about himself. "I play Sunday league football, I like boxing". He went on like this for about 10 minutes without stopping, or asking her any questions about herself. That day left an impact on me, and everytime I went on a date, I have been consious of the woman and took an interest in what she had to say. This is probably the best bit of advice I could give.

Prepare
The last thing you want is to be sitting having a meal, and the conversation dries up. Think about your date and what you would like to know about her and in return what you would like her to know about you. Try and think of any questions that she might ask you so that you can prepare the answer. You may think that it is easy to talk and that you will not run out of questions to ask, or that you will automatically have the answers, but until you are there, and in the situation, you will have no idea what to expect. You can avoid all of this by meeting for a quick drink then go on to see a film, so at least you will have something to talk about.

Who will pay?
This is a really tough question considering women are now more independant and like to pay their way. I suggest that you offer to pay and if she lets you then pay. If she wants to pay, you can suggest that you want to at least pay for half the bill.

The goodnight kiss
Some women prefer not to kiss after a date, others are disappointed if the guy doesn't even try. There is no easy answer to this. The only answer I can come up with is wait until either she makes the first move or that you both know when you are ready. Watch for body language and little touches, but I would not advice sex on the first date unless she wants to.

I'll call you
Only tell her that you will call her, if you mean it and intend on seeing her again. This is an awkward situation and most of the time the easiest solution is to take her number and tell her you will call her, but don't if you are not interested. When saying goodbye just say "It was nice meeting you" and wish her luck or you could just say "Goodnight", smile and walk away. But if you do like her and are interested, then you have to let her know.
By http://www.dating-review.co.uk

How to Impress Single Women with Flowers on Your First Date

by Don Diebel

Do single women love flowers? You bet they do!

And one of the best ways to impress a woman romantically on a first date is to bring her flowers.

Let me give you some advice about buying flowers for your date. Whatever you do, don't go out and blow a bunch of money on a dozen roses or expensive flower arrangement. Let me tell you why: You can make just as good impression by buying her a single rose with a card (nothing too mushy). Even though it's a single flower, it's the thought that counts. She will deeply appreciate it and it gets the date off to a good start. There's another disadvantage to spending lots of money on flowers on women for your first date. What if the date doesn't work out? What if you have nothing in common, no chemistry, and one or both of you are turned off by each other? I'm sure you get the point now. You've just thrown $30-50 down the toilet. You work hard for your money. Don't throw it away foolishly on a date that may not even work out.

After you have had a few dates and developed a relationship, then buy her a dozen red roses.

In closing, guys, I just can't tell you enough how single women are very impressed when they are given flowers by a man. In their heart it's a very sweet and romantic gesture. Also, don't think for a minute that giving flowers is guaranteed to get you laid.

TIPS ON ROMANCING A WOMAN

When a man romances a woman it makes her feel special, loved cared for. Romance in many ways, helps a relationship stay strong and secure. From some men, romance is something that is not part of them because they try to keep the male ego type up front. But deep inside all males have a touch of romance in them. If you take the time to show even a little romance, you will feel happier and so will she. I have put together a list of 100 ways to be romantic with a woman. Some are simple things as others are not but all are sure to make your loved one feel loved. If you are not already romantic, you soon will be.

1. Tell her at least once a day that you love her.
2. Sneak up behind her and hug her for no reason at all.
3. Pause for a moment and become lost with in her eyes.
4. Send her a card in the mail anonomously, yet inside signed by you.
5. Seek out a song that reminds you of her and give it to her.
6. Hold her hand as much as possible.
7. Send flowers to her while she is at work.
8. Write her a poem or a love letter.
9. Place her hand upon your heart and let her know it is your gift to her.
10. Send her email and e-greetings often.

11. Cook her dinner even if you do not know how to cook.
12. Give her a gift for no reason.
13. Take her for a walk in a park at night.
14. Make her a bouquet of silk flowers.
15. Take her to a romantic movie.
16. Compliment her, tell her she is beautiful.
17. Before you go to sleep invite her into your dreams.
18. Sacrafice a night out with the guys just to be with her.
19. Buy her a scented candle.
20. Tell her a story.

21. Let her know she is the love of your life.
22. Put little notes, flowers etc where you know she will find them.
23. Brush her hair.
24. Comfort her in times of sorrow.
25. Be there for her in times of need.
26. Take her out for a night on the town.
27. Surprise her with a bubble bath.
28. Leave romantic songs on her voice mail.
29. Respect her for who she is.
30. Create romantic coupons she can use anytime.

31. Listen to her and give her time.
32. Create her a web page full of love.
33. Buy her favorite book in hardback.
34. Take her for a drive through the country side.
35. Make her breakfast in bed.
36. Buy her a puppy or a kitten.
37. Rent/Buy her favorite movie (even if you do not like it).
38. When at the store get her a bubblegum ball machine ring.
39. Campout in the living room floor.
40. Order her favorite food and have it delivered to her secretly.

41. Make her a cd of love songs with you as a radio dj.
42. Draw her a picture.
43. Understand her and give her time.
44. Hug and kiss her especially when she has a bad day.
45. Make her a greeting card.
46. Wink at her and blow her kisses.
47. Write "I Love You" on your bathroom mirror.
48. Spray your cologne on her pillow.
49. Give her a massage.
50. Stroke her hair softly letting it run throuh your fingers.

51. Let her have a day to do what she wants.
52. Make her a main priority in your life.
53. Give her a wake up call with words of love.
54. Secretly put glow in the dark stars on her ceiling.
55. Buy her jewelry for no reason.
56. Make everyday a Valentines Day.
57. Buy her a nice mirror and tell her every time she looks in it, she will know she sees the worlds most beautiful woman in your eyes.
58. Take her to the place you first met on the same date of every month.
59. Buy her a teddy bear.
60. Give her a sponge bath in candle light.

61. Let her know because of her, You have the world.
62. Let her know she is your world.
63. Surprise her with an event she likes.
64. Tuck her in and softly kiss her forehead.
65. Buy her scented soaps and oils she likes.
66. Take her on a row boat ride.
67. Kiss her hand as much as possible.
68. Hold her close while you sleep.
69. Steal her heart and write her a randsom note.
70. Dedicate your love to her.

71. Take her to karaoke and sing her a song or offer to sing a love duet even if you can not sing.
72. Sit on top of the roof and gaze at the stars together.
73. Change her screen saver to 3D text with a loving message.
74. Dance with her listening to oldies on the radio.
75. Buy a toy crown and treat her like a Queen.
76. Bake her a heart shaped cake and feed it to her.
77. Take her on a horse and carriage ride at night.
78. Give her a face mask followed with a massage.
79. Buy her a favorite collectible she has been yearning for.
80. Carve a heart in a tree with both of your initials in a place you know she will see it.

81. Make her a mural of your memories past.
82. Get a menu from the restaurant and gift wrap it with a date invitation.
83. Send her a singing telegram with balloons and flowers.
84. Give her a candle lit picnic in the back yard.
85. Tell her she has a smile that you love to kiss.
86. Buy her a locket with your picture inside.
87. Send her a single rose anonymously for 12 days. Not letting her know it is you. On the 12th day send the final rose with a card signed by you.
88. Find the history of her name and the meaning and have it framed.
89. Get a nice size rock and carve your love in to it and place it outside her door step where she can see it.
90. Buy her a crystal ashtray (even if she does not smoke) and have a message of love engraved in it.

91. Tell her the many reasons you have fallen in love with her.
92. Recite to her quotes of love just out of the blue.
93. Create a newspaper type newsletter of all of your memories and send it to her through the mail.
Add a few coupons she can use.
94. Learn to say I love you in as many different languages as possible and recite them to her one by one.
95. Let her know you miss her even if she is gone for a short while.
96. Make her a VHS video of yourself pouring out your love to her.
97. Leave a rose and a note on her car at work, when she reads it walk up to her and give her a hug and a kiss.
98. Create a drive in movie in your back yard using a TV/VCR/DVD.
99. Ask her "Do you know who you remind me of?" When she asks back "Who?" You reply absolutely no one. It lets her know she is one in a trillion.
100. Buy a bottle of her favorite wine, Soak it in water until the lable comes off. Create a new lable and rename the wine with a loving message. Example, "Love potion #9 created with the love of you and I".
From Romance Tips: http://www.geocities.com/touched__love/male.html

Why Nice Guys Finish Last

by Peter Tang

What do you want to eat?

Do you want to go out with me?

Can I kiss you?

Do any of these questions sound familiar? If you've asked them in the past, you're probably a "nice guy". I cringe when I hear that derogatory term, and so should you.

Years ago, I was about as "nice" as one could get. I smothered women with niceness to the point that it became vulgar. Needless to say, I never got past the first date.

Now why is that? Don't women always complain about a shortage of nice guys?
This is a classic case of miscommunication. Somehow, many men have the impression that being a "nice guy" is synonymous with being a "doormat". In reality, what women really want are men who will treat them right and sweep them off their feet. Did you get that last part?

That is the number one ingredient that women are looking for. Every woman wants a man who can sweep her off her feet.

Look at any successful romance novel or soap opera, the stuff that women are addicted to. What do the leading male figures all have in common? For starters, he never asks, "Do you want to go out with me?" Instead, the hero says, "I'm going to play pool Friday night, wanna come?" Instead of asking, "What do you want to eat for dinner?", the hero says "There's a very nice Italian restaurant on South Street, how's that?" Instead of asking if he can kiss her, which is entirely unromantic. He simply stares into her eyes for a moment. If she doesn't look away, he kisses her. Simple as that.

The doormat, who must ask permission before doing anything, is seen as a child, and no woman wants to play the role of a baby-sitter.

But by exerting a little control and demonstrating some initiative, you will set yourself apart from the doormats who finish last. You will distinguish yourself as a "real man" who has the potential to sweep her off her feet. So, it's on to date number two.

Insider Tips for Men

by Lynn Harris
On certain issues, men and women are going to have to agree to disagree. For instance, women will never, ever laugh at The Three Stooges; men will never, ever cry at Dirty Dancing.

But overall, men and women are not all that different. If you think about it, everyone's needs are fundamentally human: some affection, some solitude, some partnership, some independence.

The problem is, once men and women start saying they don't understand each other, we're likely to give up trying -- and that gets us nowhere. So, to make things easy for everyone, here are the 10 top things that women say they want men to know. The news, I might add, is good: Women are not nearly as needy, chatty or mysterious as men think, thank you very much. So why not print out this article and happen to leave it lying, say, near someone's Three Stooges DVD?

We do not need to hear you say, "I'll call you," if you don't plan to, says Leora, a single New Yorker. Bottom line, most women would rather be let down than lied to. Though to be fair, women white-lie the same way, saying "Let's have lunch!" to acquaintances we know we won't make time for. That's because "I'll call you" and its cousins serve as WD-40 for that awkward goodbye. So the trick, gentlemen, is to come up with an alternate graceful out, such as, "Thanks for a really nice evening." Yes, even if that's a lie. (Bonus tip: If you are going to call, "Waiting three days does not make us like you better," says Cara, a single Manhattanite.)

If you're busy, we prefer getting a quick e-mail saying so rather than being left to wonder why you've dropped off the face of the earth, says Beth, a single woman currently living in France. If you're slammed at work this week and can't give us the attention you'd like to, we'll live -- all we want is a heads-up. We don't need to talk all the time; a brief call or e-mail saying you'll check in next week is not rude, it's thoughtful. (As long as you actually do it.)

Even if you're not a world champion plan-maker, every effort is appreciated -- we don't want to feel like the social secretary of the relationship, says Eve, an attached New Yorker. Yes, we like some control in this area, but we're also ... tired. Which means that, as generous as it sounds, hearing "Whatever you want to do!" rarely turns us on. But really, no pressure: Generally, we prefer fun to fancy.

You shouldn't be offended if we don't jump right in with both feet, says Gail, a single woman in New Jersey. "Some women just need more time than others." Relax -- we need time and space, too. If we're hanging back, it doesn't mean we're testing you or playing games, or that we don't like you. We might just need a chance to figure out how we feel as things run their course. (Or we might just be slammed at work. Sound familiar?)

When we're mad at you, don't try to hug and kiss us. We want to punch you, says Kris, an Austin, Texas, single. Men have been raised to fear the stereotypical Angry Woman. But trying to plaster over our rage with smooches will only make actual steam come out our ears. Letting us be mad -- even fighting back -- is actually the best way to calm things down.

Engaging you in a lively debate doesn't mean we're trying to change your mind ... except when it does, says Shana, a mom in Queens, New York. Seriously, we like a good argument. The friendly fights over world issues between a die-hard conservative and a liberal mate can be some of the best -- that is, most passionate -- moments.

We want to know enough about your ex to know that she's not a threat, says Karen, a single woman in Washington, D.C. "If you never say word one, I'll worry that things are still raw -- but I don't want all the gooey details either." In other words, we want the Cliffs Notes version of your breakup, plus one damning detail that will make us feel secretly superior.

Don't go for the obvious spots on the body; take a trip around them and see what happens, says Mary, a single woman in Manhattan. We like the obvious zones as much as the next girl, but exploring a woman everywhere shows that (a) you know that all women are different, (b) you want to get to know every inch of her, and (c) you want to know what makes her, in particular, say, "Oooh!"

Taking care of something that's been hanging over our heads and making us miserable is worth 10 orgasms, says Susan, a mom in Newton, Mass. One woman knew that the guy she was dating was a keeper when he surprised her by flattening and recycling all the empty boxes that were driving her nuts.

We actually do want to know if something makes us look fat. Just maybe not in so many words. Saying, "That's fine, but I think you look really great in the green dress," gets you major, major points. Not that we're counting.

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